Hooking up with no regrets can sound like a concept that's too good to be true, but that's not always the case. When it comes to hooking up with no regrets, there are some things that you're definitely going to need to consider. Taking these things into consideration can make all the difference in the world. So, how can you hook up with no regrets? Absolutely, yes. You both need to know what you want, and have an understanding. Make sure that you're both on the same page, and leave all emotions out of the equation. Who you pick really matters because there needs to be a level of trust where you're not going to catch feelings, and if either of you do, you both need to be cool with walking away. If you don't make it a big deal, it can be a lot of fun, and Xpress.com has got the info you need on how to make this the case. Keep reading for more info!
If you're looking to have a hookup, and leave it as just that, then you need to be sure of that. Going into a hookup situation when you're not sure what you want is usually a pretty sure recipe for disaster. If you're not sure what exactly it is that you want, then it's probably a really good idea to hold off on any hookups until you are. Especially if you're carrying some emotional baggage forward with you from a past relationship, or whatever the case, this could mean the difference between bringing even more emotional distress on yourself - and potentially someone else. Make sure that you know where your head is at, and that a hookup is exactly what you're looking for. If you're sure that's what you're into, then you're ready to find someone that you can enjoy on a strictly sexual level, and you could be in for a lot of fun.
Just as you need to know what you want, the person you consider hooking up with needs to know the same. They can't be unsure of what it is that they're looking for either. If their head is in the right space, and they're definitely not looking for anything serious at all, then you may have found the ideal person to hookup with once - or even for a while, if that's how things end up working out for the two of you. Make sure that you're aware of where they're coming from. You don't want to end up stuck in a potentially draining situation with someone who's looking to cling to you after a bad breakup, divorce, or whatever. If they're in a super emotional place at all, it's best to steer clear of them. You never know what you might be getting yourself into, and if you're looking to keep things simple, then make sure they are looking to do the exact same thing. Hit the road if they have any doubts, or if you have any doubts about where they're coming from. You can always cut your losses and find someone else. You won't regret it. If you know that they're looking for the same thing you are though, then you can look towards coming to an understanding of what you can both expect, which leads us to our next point.
Now that you're both sure what you want, there should be an understanding that you're both willing to reach in order to move forward. It sounds like a lot to go through, but consider the potential issues if you don't. Yikes! Lay the ground rules. There's nothing wrong with doing this. Maybe there are kids involved with one or both of you. It's important that you choose to leave them entirely out of the situation. They shouldn't ever see either of you coming or going. That can create some pretty big complications that are not worth the effort for something as simple as a hookup, even if it's a long-term one. If you're doing a one night deal, then that's even easier. Pick a night that's not going to involve any surprises on both ends, and keep it as simple as possible. If you're just hooking up, then you don't need to be exposed to each other's daily life any more than necessary. A quick one night situation is easy enough to navigate, but if you're looking for a more long-term hookup, then these things will definitely need to be discussed. Make sure that there's a solid understanding laid down between the two of you, and that you're both on the same page. Doing this will help make sure that you have a great time, and don't end up having any regrets.
There are few things worse to imagine when it comes to a hookup, than to end up expecting a child, or to pick up an any sexually transmitted diseases. Not a fun topic, but nonetheless, it's incredibly important to consider this before deciding to hook up with someone. If it's just a one night deal, make sure that you're both taking every possible precaution. If you're looking to get into a more long term hookup situation though, you'll probably want to ensure that you both have a clean bill of health, and that birth control is being used. Keeping the hookups limited to just the two of you isn't a bad way to go, either. It eliminates a lot of other unwanted possibilities. Having fun is the main objective here, of course. There's a lot more fun to be had though, when you're doing it safely. The more relaxed and trusting you can be of your hookup, the less there will be to worry about, and the more you can enjoy each other.
This is pretty important! This is your hookup, not your significant other. So, if you lose your job, loved one, have a bad day, or go through any other kind of serious life issue, your hookup is not the person that you need to reach out to. They're there for a specific purpose, and emotional support isn't one of them. Sounds harsh, but it isn't. Emotions need to be left out where hookups are concerned, if you want to them to remain hookups. If you sense that you're looking to lean on your hookup for things other than sex, or vice versa, then you have an entirely different situation on your hands that you're going to want to make sure you deal with asap. As soon as emotions enter the situation, you're crossing over from hookup - to something more, and that's not going to lead to anything good. Involving emotions in a hookup is a sure way to end up having regrets, so if you're looking to avoid that scenario altogether, then you will definitely need to make sure that you're leaving your emotions at the door.
Okay, fair enough that if you're looking for a quick one night hookup, you probably don't need to put as much thought into this - although you should still put some in. If you're going for a long-term hookup though, you're going to want to make sure that this is someone that you're going to be able to jive with on a hookup level. Someone who you're definitely physically attracted to, who you can trust to leave their emotions at the door, and who you can leave your emotions at the door with, also. Someone who you can trust to be safe with you. No, you're not committed, but your health should still be a concern for both of you. If they're someone who you know has multiple partners, then you're going to need to consider very carefully whether or not this is something you want to get involved with. This is meant to be a simple, uncomplicated situation. Don't let it end in regret by picking someone that's not going to end up being a right choice for you. Your hookup doesn't need to be perfect, but they should be someone that you can take a relaxed and trusting approach with.
This has been touched on throughout the article, but it needs to be explored in a bit more detail. Trust when it comes to a hookup isn't going to be the same thing as a relationship, but there are some important considerations to be made here if you want to avoid any potential hookup regrets. For example, you'd probably like to keep this personal, and between the two of you. So, if you're hooking up with someone, it's important to consider how much you can trust them to keep things between the two of you. You also want to be able to trust that you're both on the same page, as previously mentioned. You don't want to end up in an emotional mess of any kind, or have your phone blow up every twenty minutes after a one night hookup. When it comes to your safety as well, trust is going to be an incredibly important consideration. If you feel like someone you're considering hooking up with is shady or untrustworthy, then this isn't going to get off to a great start. Make sure that you feel confident about being able to trust someone before getting involved. You'll save yourself a lot of headaches.
This seems obvious, but its importance can't really be overstated. The last thing you want to do in a hookup situation of any kind, is catch feelings. That will almost always end up leading to regret, and it's not worth it. If you find yourself catching feelings or you find that your hookup is catching feelings then you need to address things. It can seem harmless, but at the end of the day, you're both having a hookup because you're both in a place where you're not looking for anything serious. If this ends up changing, so does the entire dynamic of what you're doing together, and that's not likely to be a good thing. One way or another, drama is likely to follow. So, if you're not looking to get into a sticky situation, then the best thing both of you can possibly do, is avoid catching feelings altogether. You've already gone through the ground rules and come to an understanding, so it's important to stick to the plan, and avoid catching feelings. If either one of you does, though...you know what you have to do.
If either of you do catch feelings, you need to walk away. There's no way around it, unless you want to enter relationship territory. If you were both looking for a hookup to begin with, this is likely to end up being a regretful situation, so you need to walk away. You will get over it, and so will they. Remember, hookups are just that. They're not meant to turn into anything more, unless it's extremely exceptional circumstances, so cut your losses and deal with whatever you need to.
When you're done, leave and be done. Pillow talk isn't necessary. Hanging around isn't necessary. Thinking about it at all when you're not with them - also not necessary. When you're with them you're with them, and when you're not, you're not. Keep it simple, and don't make a big deal about your hookup. That's the best way to avoid being in a hookup situation that you end up regretting.