Hookups can be a lot of fun to begin with, but there's something about the wedding hookup that tends to make it a little bit more fun than the rest. When we hookup at a wedding, love is already in the air, we're all looking our best, and it almost kind of seems like everyone is checking everyone out. It's a lot of fun for all of the single folks who are there, because the possibilities for good hookups seem endless. So, what happens after a wedding hookup? There are a lot of different things that can - and sometimes won't, happen after a wedding hookup, but the important thing to remember, is that what ultimately happens, is up to you.
As long as you set some ground rules, don't get wasted, be discreet and keep things on the down low, you can save the juice for after the honeymoon, and not make a big deal out of it. Check out the details here at Xpressand get the info you need.
Initially speaking, you and your potential hookup are going to be the ones who determine what happens before, during, and after your wedding hookup. It's cool to talk about things with them when you initially connect, to see if you're both looking to get the same thing out of the hookup. If you're both looking for the potential of more from this experience, then you can declare that from the beginning. If you're both only looking for a one night situation, then you can get that out of the way as well. It's never a good idea to hook up with someone who isn't looking for the same thing as you under any circumstances, but especially a wedding hookup. That news has the potential to travel fast, long after the wedding, if things don't end well.
So, before deciding to hookup for the night, make sure that you're both on the same page so that you can avoid any additional, unnecessary conflicts after the fact. Remember that there are a lot of family members and friends at these functions, so this isn't the time and place to be careless about a hookup. Sure, it's totally cool to enjoy yourself and have one, but many people will tell you that their wedding hookups have ended up causing more grief than anything in the end, due to being careless about them in the first place. That being said, it's important to make sure you both know what to expect - or what not to expect, and lay down some ground rules in the beginning. Which brings us to our next point.
If you want to keep it simple and leave it as a one night thing, cool. Make sure they do, too. If you're looking to maybe turn it into a long-term hookup situation, you can discuss that initially as well. If you're looking to leave the door open for something more long term down the road, then make sure that you're both on the same page in that regard, because things can get pretty messy if you're not. Laying ground rules with your hookup is the best first step that either of you can take toward having a great time, and making sure that you're both on the same page, so that any potential drama can be left out of the situation. You don't need to map out the next 10 years of your lives together, but there is absolutely no harm in mapping out the next 12 or so hours. Make sure that you have each other's contact information in advance if you plan on staying in touch, because neither one of you is going to want to reach out to the bride or groom afterward to get each other's information. It's just going to lead to a lot of unnecessary chatter about you and your hookup. So, make sure that you're on the ball with getting contact info, if you're going to want it. If you can set some solid ground rules up front, it will save a lot of things from going wrong afterward.
Yes, you're there to have fun, and it's a great idea for you to let loose and have a few drinks. Even a bit of open flirting is a good thing with your hookup, but don't get loser drunk. That way, when you wake up the next morning, you won't be waking up with a million questions about what you did the night before, and how much everyone knows about what you may have done with your hookup. It's definitely a good night to have a few and get super tipsy, but it's also good to remember to keep your head above water, so that you can manage your situation, ensure that you wake up with more answers than questions the following day. It might sound a bit funny, but if you ask anyone who's gotten exceptionally wasted, and and had a wedding fling, they'll all be sure to tell you that it was not one of their finer moments, and certainly one that they wish they would have approached with more tact. So, don't get hosed on wedding hookup night. Have fun and keep it at the tipsy level, so that you can also enjoy your hookup, and not have to worry about anything the next morning.
Even if you've been seen flirting with your wedding hookup du nuit, that doesn't mean that everyone needs to get a solid preview of coming attractions. Seriously, no one ever lost out on an amazing hookup by keeping things on the down low, and the last thing you're going to want to explain to the bride or groom, is why you had a one night stand with one of their dear friends or family members. Keep things super chill, and don't make a public display of anything. Make sure that you're both on the same page so you don't have to worry about any potential post-hookup dramatics. If you can keep things super cool and on the down low, you'll set the stage for an awesome hookup, with no pesky aftermath to worry about cleaning up.
If you're keeping things quiet, then you should be sleeping in separate rooms. Don't risk waking up in the morning, and running into a bunch of people from the bride and groom's side of things in the hallway, as you both leave the same room, or one of you is sneaking out of the other's room. If you head back to where you should be after your hookup is done, then no one will need to be the wiser to whatever might have happened the night before, and it's win-win. You both had a fun hook-up, and no one else needs to know about it, or have any sort of an opinion about it. People can be pretty nosy, so remembering to keep things as inconspicuous as possible is always a very good idea. The last thing you want is a call from the bride or groom while they're away on their honeymoon, asking why you hooked up with their cousin. Make sure things are kept as simple as possible.
So, yeah. Even though they may likely suspect as much, you don't need to broadcast to the bride, groom, and all of their close family and friends that the two of you had a hot hookup last night. Arrive at separate times, alone, and it's probably a good idea to make sure that you're not wearing the same thing you were at the wedding. Make everything all about the bride and groom, enjoy the last meal of the festivities together, and have a great time. Forget about the hookup, at least until well after brunch, and remember why you're there in the first place. Even if the bride or groom are dying to know how things go, assure them that this time is about them, and that you want to hear all about what they have planned for their honeymoon. This still needs to be all about them for now, and you'll have plenty of time to connect after they've returned from their honeymoon, and after you've looked through all of their pictures, of course. Which brings us to the next point.
Again, your hookup is not meant to be the star of this show, the bride and groom are, so any juice on hour hookup can wait until after the wedding stuff is done. Yes, a lot of folks might be interested, including the bride and groom, but this just isn't the time. If questions come up, remember to put the focus back on them. this is their special time and you want to make sure that they're enjoying it to the fullest. Maybe pull out your phone, and show them some of the great pics that you got from the night before. Offer to take some more as well. Keep the focus where it ought to be. The wedding festivities will be over and done with in no time, and then there will be plenty of time to go over all of the juicy details of your hookup, if you're into sharing them.
Seriously, what for? As long as you've done your due diligence and made an effort to keep things on the down low, there's really no reason for anyone to be too concerned with what you may or may not have done sexually with one of the other wedding guests, so play things completely casually, and don't bring any more attention to things than is necessary. It's not necessary, and at the end of the day, you're all adults, so there shouldn't be any issue with everyone where your hookup is concerned. Chances are that if you don't make any kind of big deal out of it, no one else will, either. Play things cool, and say as little as possible. Who needs to know all of these details anyway? It's not really anyone's business. Whether the hookup turned out to be a big deal or a small one, the only people who really need to know, are you and your hookup.
Meh, who really cares? If it turns into something, that's really cool! If it doesn't turn into anything, that doesn't really matter. It was a fling and you both surely had a lot of fun, so if that's where it stays, that's totally fine. Enjoy the memory and the fun you had together, and keep moving forward. There's no need to drag anything out or keep in contact with a fling if that's all it was. Even if things weren't necessarily communicated as clearly as they should have been the night before, again, who really cares? It was one night and at the end of the day, if you had fun, that's really all that matters. Keep moving forward, and again don't worry about making a big deal out of anything. It's really not a big deal at the end of the day, and if it's nothing serious, there's no big deal that needs to be made.
Your behavior will ultimately determine how everything turns out. So, play things cool, be discreet about things, and don't leave the door open for any unnecessary info to get out there. Keep things super chill and cool. Keep them on the down low, and remember that what happens after a wedding hookup is entirely up to you.